5 signs you may have taken minimalism too far in your lifestyle – professional organizers weigh in

The spaciousness of minimalism, both as an aesthetic as well as a lifestyle choice, can be incredibly appealing. With the simplicity it brings, you can say goodbye to spending hours searching for your favorite shirt, or feeling overwhelmed by the excess of clutter surrounding you.

Starting to encourage minimalism at home isn’t easy for everyone, but for some the momentum of living a minimalist life seems unstoppable. Before they know it, their mind becomes perfectly wired to the principles of living a life with less.

Yet, is there such a thing as taking minimalism too far? Can decluttering and seeking to go through life with as few possessions as possible bring a person the complete opposite of Marie Kondo’s 'spark of joy'? Here are five signs from experts in minimalism and professional organizing that you may have taken this lifestyle choice a bit too far.

1. You are experiencing post-decluttering grief

If you embarked on a decluttering journey seeking to better yourself and your life but instead ended up left with a hard to pinpoint feeling of negativity, something isn’t right. It can be difficult to remove a lot of items from your home at once instead of decluttering as you go, so if you’re feeling  a sense of post-decluttering grief, it is normal - at least to a certain degree.

‘While it’s very common to have feelings of lightness or euphoria while purging possessions, grief can also be an unexpected by-product after items have been removed from ones life,’ says Mindy Godding, Certified Professional Organizer, President of the National Association of Productivity and Organizing Professionals (NAPO), and Owner of Abundance Organized. 

‘Many people report feelings of loss or loneliness when confronting an empty space that was previously full. These feelings are perfectly normal if they’re experienced temporarily, but if the feelings persist, that’s a sign that the process of decluttering has been out of alignment.’

2. An active sense of regret or frustration

The most common and easy to spot sign that a person may have decluttered too much in pursuit of a minimalist lifestyle is regret. Whether it’s constant or comes on in waves, you miss certain items that you chose to let go and wish they were still around in your life.

‘Occasionally when working on their own, people can almost purge in a frenzy, without careful deliberation or thought into long-term consequences,’ explains Mindy. ‘If someone is experiencing frustration or feeling manic in the decluttering process, they may have gotten rid of too much.’ This is one of the clear signs it's time to stop decluttering.

Gretchen Moen, Chief Clutter Cutter at Cut The Clutter RVA in Richmond, Virginia, has directly experienced what it's like to regret decluttering something, still feeling that regret years later. 'When decluttering books at my house, I donated my child’s Dr. Seuss books because we no longer read them regularly. Seven years later, my now-teenager still reminds me of my mistake in donating those cherished books.'

'When decluttering is successful it's life-changing, bringing with it appreciation, focus, calm and joy,' Gretchen continues. 'When I mistakenly donated those Dr. Seuss books, I learned the art of patience and the importance of considering the impact of decluttering items on not only myself, but on the people around me as well.'

3. You overlooked what's important to you

You will ultimately end up feeling unfulfilled if you make your decluttering decisions based on anything other than your goals, wants and values. Up-heaving your life and discarding things that matter to you in the name of making your home look like a magazine page won’t bring you the joy you’re hoping for if you have to get rid of so much of what you love in the process.

‘Marketing is very powerful and consumerism drives much of the messaging we receive in society,’ says Heidi Solomon, Professional Organizer and Interior Decorator at POSH Boston. ‘Minimalism isn’t about living with nothing, it’s about having what you need and use, and being mindful about what you consume and how you live.'

4. You're repurchasing what you purged

Letting go of items you need and use is one of the top decluttering mistakes people make, and moreover it doesn’t align with the true values of minimalism – keeping what you use, need and love. Having less but struggling isn’t the way. This process is about creating abundance and making life better, not leaving yourself deprived and regretfully reaching for the credit card.

‘For minimalism to work it is relative to what one person needs in their life,’ says Heidi. ‘If you find yourself constantly “missing” something or having to re-buy something you previously owned, those are signs you might have released too much.’

5. Your life still doesn’t feel like it’s giving you what you need

If you’re experiencing prolonged negative feelings after decluttering and you are not enjoying the new, more minimalistic life you’ve created, it’s time to begin reflecting. It’s okay to feel this way, but in order to help yourself going forward you need to reflect on where and what went wrong, and if it was a good choice for you to pursue minimalism in the first place.

‘Minimalism is a lifestyle, not a strategy,’ says Mindy. ‘Be clear about your goals. Most people who adopt this lifestyle have a very clear purpose and mission behind it. Getting clear on what you will gain as you release possessions – and being able to articulate that – will always help to anchor you in on-going decision making and long-term contentment.’

Heidi adds: ‘It’s easy to get on a roll and purge too much. I believe those that are most successful in living a minimalistic lifestyle have a lot of clarity about what they need, use and do. They are able to block out the consumerist and societal messages that contribute to maximalism and overbuying, instead focusing on what it is that actually matters to them.’

‘It’s difficult to know all of your needs going forward but the more clarity you have about who you are, what you want long term and how you wish to live, the better your choices will align with your lifestyle and needs,’ says Heidi.

So go forth with subjectivity, consider how to make decluttering fun, and remember: your happiness shouldn’t be worth more than an aesthetic.

Now you have a clearer idea of where to draw the line with minimalism in your home, delve into how to add warmth into a minimalist home, or explore the happy middle ground of Midimalism.